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How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards
How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards
How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards
How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards
How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards
How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards

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How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards

The therapist-designed ritual that helps couples feel close again—without the therapy price tag.

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Feel truly seen and understood

Reconnect emotionally in just 10 minutes

Closeness that lasts – for less than a dinner out

The gift that brings people closer 🎁
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“I got these cards kind of as a last try before suggesting therapy. I didn’t expect much, but wow. The first night, we stayed up talking for hours. He shared things I didn’t even know he was thinking. 

We’ve been using them every week now, and I finally feel like we’re on the same team again!!”

Emma N. (Houston, USA)

Don’t let silence turn you into strangers — remember why you chose each other. 

You still love each other. So why does it feel sometimes like you're drifting apart?

 

You share a home. Maybe kids. You coordinate schedules, split bills, plan vacations.

But when did you last talk about you two?

Not the logistics. Not the to-do list. Not "how was your day?"

A real conversation. The kind where you feel truly seen. Where your partner really gets you.

That closeness you once had isn't gone. It's just buried under life.
 

No arguments. No interrogation. Just a safe framework developed by a therapist so real conversations can happen.


 

THIS IS FOR YOU IF...

  • You feel more like roommates than partners
  • Conversations stay stuck at the surface
  • You're tired of being the only one doing the emotional work
  • Your partner shuts down when things get emotional
  • You want to reconnect but don't know where to start
  • You miss feeling truly seen and understood
  • Therapy feels too expensive or too far away
  • You still love each other—you just need a way back in

If you nodded to even one of these, keep reading.

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Back to Us – Heal Your Relationship & Grow Together

Back to Us – Heal Your Relationship & Grow Together

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How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards (Physical&Digital)

How Am I Really? Self-reflection Cards (Physical&Digital)

Love & Desire - Digital set

4-Week Printable Couples Workbook (Digital)

Break the cycle of the same fights

Therapy-inspired tools—without the therapy price tag

Feel truly heard, even after months of silence

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The Connection Kit

The Connection Kit

$99.99
$54.99

How Are You Really?™ Conversation Cards

How Am I Really? Self-reflection & journaling prompts

FREE: Love & Desire - Digital set

Feel more connected — emotionally and physically

Know yourself, connect deeper

Therapist-designed, reusable forever

Three tools, one complete journey

Fall in love with it (or send it back) — 30-Day Guarantee on All Physical Card Sets.

From Daily Routine to Real Connection

You talk about the kids, the calendar, the groceries… but not each other.
The closeness you once felt? It’s buried under everyday life.

→ These cards help you gently reconnect — one honest moment at a time.

Turn “fine” into deeply connected

You crave deeper connection… but where do you start?
This deck gives you the words. It lowers the barrier.

→ So you can go beyond small talk and feel truly seen.

Stop Doing All the Emotional Work Alone

You do not have to be the one trying to get your partner to talk about your relationship. You simply draw a card, and the question is there. No pressure, no agenda, no moment where he feels like he is sitting on the witness stand.
 

The cards take care of the hardest part: getting started. And many partners who would normally shut down the second a conversation gets serious begin to open up when a neutral question creates the space for it. 

No defensiveness. No interrogation. Just two people finally truly talking to each other again.

You Still Love Each Other — But Something’s Missing

You share a home, maybe even a family. You laugh at shows, share bills, plan vacations. But deep down… you miss feeling close.

 

→ Created with a licensed therapist, they give you a safe, simple way to bridge the silence. In just 10 minutes, you can move past chores and small talk, and rediscover the connection hiding beneath the routine.

What makes these cards different from everything else you've tried

OUR
PRODUCTS

OTHER CARDS

✅ Created with licensed therapist Grace Bithell

 ❌ Often made without professional input

✅ Designed for deepening existing relationships

✅ Questions evolve—new insights every time

 ❌ Often same repetitive answers after one use

✅ Opening & closing questions for emotional safety

 ❌ Usually jump straight in without emotional safety nets.

✅ Built for rituals—daily, weekly, or whenever

✅ Used by therapists & relationship coaches

 ❌ Rarely used professionally
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Just 10 minutes – that's all it takes.

No free evening needed. No perfect moment. You don't even have to both feel like getting off the couch. Here are a few ideas:

  • Date Night Starter: Pick 1–3 cards after dinner, phones face-down, candles on.
  • One Card a Day: Talk it through on a walk, over coffee, or before bed.
  • Weekly Check-In: Every Sunday, choose one card + share highlights, lows, and one small promise.
  • Pillow Talk: One gentle card under the covers; take turns reading and answering.
  • On the Go: Use the digital copy on your phone. Perfect for commute calls or long-distance FaceTime.
  • Anchor It: Keep the deck by the kettle or on the coffee table so “one card” becomes a habit.

Tip: If a card doesn’t fit today, skip it. The point is showing up, not perfection.

Step 1:

Set the scene. Make it comfortable and undisturbed.

Step 2:

Start with the opening question to warm up and ease into the conversation.

Step 3:

Take turns and really listen without interrupting.

Step 4:

Go through the questions and tasks designed to deepen your connection.

Step 5:

End with the closing question to leave you both feeling closer.

Ready for Real Change? Choose Back to Us - Bundle

  • 4-Week Printable Couples Workbook. Weekly themes, daily prompts, and simple rituals to help you reconnect, communicate better, and feel emotionally safe again. 
     
  • Powerful Conversation Cards — designed to spark honest, vulnerable conversations and bring you closer, even long after the workbook ends — to keep your emotional connection strong.
     
  • Self-Reflection Tools for Both of You. Our How Am I Really? journaling set helps each partner explore their own emotions, triggers, and needs. 
     
  • Reviewed and refined by a licensed therapist. Shaped with therapeutic insight to support real, lasting connection at home.
     
  • Therapy-Inspired, Without the Therapy Price Tag. Grounded in real relationship psychology — but designed to be used at home, together, at your own pace.
     
  • No Lectures. No Pressure. No Scripts. Just gentle structure, meaningful moments, and the tools to help you feel like a team again.

Hear from Our Customers

50,000+ Customers Who Love Us

Verified Purchase

"They helped create space to heal from some aspects of the issues. We are not giving up and some days are harder than others."

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"they are a good prompt to start convos that would otherwise be difficult to bring up"

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"I wish you and your endeavors all the best. For what you gave, to me and everyone else- may you learn for yourself and/or your partner, a love unending 💜 thank you!"

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"Our connection has always remained undefined in the 7 years that we were a part of each other's life and in the last two years during the times that we were actively a part of each other's life, we started to be more intentional about our connection and managed to create more depth. However, we continued to separate often and these cards were away for us to get back to the depth of what we had begun to create."

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"We used to just talk about chores, work, and the kid — never about us. I missed feeling close but didn’t want heavy talks or therapy. These cards gave us an easy, safe way to open up again and share what we really feel. Now we actually understand each other better and feel like a real team again."

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"I used to react too quickly and feel misunderstood, which often led to tension and distance. These cards help me sort my feelings first, so I can start gentle, honest talks instead of turning every conversation into a fight. They make it feel safe to open up.”

Customer 

Verified Purchase

"the cards have helped me work through my feeling before reaching out to communicate. Past traumas leave me "reactive" emotionally rather than responsive. While the energy I pick up on is true... the translation of "what it means or is about" is not necessarily what is going on in the other person. The cards help me to have a space to gently begin conversation rather than having the energy of an interrogation!"

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Anonymous
Looks interesting

Looks interesting. Haven’t played yet.

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Cheryl C.
YES!

I would buy this item again and again! Please consider bulk pricing! Great tool for work and for my family.

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Hannah
Coffee and cards

These cards are such a simple yet powerful way to connect. My partner and I have started using them every morning over breakfast, and they’ve helped us cut through the small talk and spark conversations that really matter. Highly recommend

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Ian
Being seen, valued and heard

Each of us has a yearning for connection, yet we are not necessarily taught how to develop that through communication. I love these cards as they help me to go beyond the surface and connect with someone on a much deeper level. Highly recommended for couples and even individuals wanting to communicate in a much more profound way.

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Tyler
Way better than I expected

Some questions were too intense for us, so we skipped a few. But overall, it helped us open up more than we have in a long time.

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